Is it me or am i not meant to fit in here?

im a new guy in a new town. and it seems hard for me to make new friends. well with guys its sort of easy but with women its complicated..in regards to dating they are reluctant to get to know Me but would try a guy they already have known for years.. now this is suppose to be a "city" where new people come daily..WTF is up with that? one girl i was tryin 2 get 2 know was reluctant to try me but started to hit up my homeboy (who she known for a long time)..plus tucson isn't really a black town if u get wat im sayin..wtf is up..is it me or what?